Comments on: Address Book Full of Empty Web Pages http://maymay.net/blog/2004/11/24/address-book-full-of-empty-web-pages/ The brutally honest, first-person account of Meitar Moscovitz's life. Tue, 06 Jan 2009 22:24:06 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: blondzila http://maymay.net/blog/2004/11/24/address-book-full-of-empty-web-pages/comment-page-1/#comment-121 blondzila Sat, 27 Nov 2004 23:31:01 +0000 /?p=135#comment-121 I'll send you an email :-) I’ll send you an email :-)

]]> By: Nick http://maymay.net/blog/2004/11/24/address-book-full-of-empty-web-pages/comment-page-1/#comment-116 Nick Wed, 24 Nov 2004 16:17:33 +0000 /?p=135#comment-116 Your grandmother (My mom), Meitar, a bona fide bipolar, as you know, was too, notoriously hypersexual even at the advanced age of her 60's, irresponsibly getting herself into trouble with men younger and older than her, men who had nothing to offer her, other than her exploits. When Bipolar, all the hallmark "disordered manic behaviors" such as delusional grandiosity, spending sprees, and of course, hyper sexuality etc. are the most serious roadblocks on the road to stability, because stability, more than anything else is measured and percieved in comparison to others. I am struck by your apparent awareness of your own vulnerabilities, as much as by your lack of awareness of others'. Please don't get me wrong. I am not judging you. In fact, I know how sensitive you can be to others. Yet your general tendency is to be aloof, inconsiderate and solitair. I believe that your "case" is, thankfully, mild, both in this tendency as well as in your other "bipolar expressions". Considering OTHERS' vulnerabilities can become a powerful asset in dealing with people, especially those who are closest. Knowing where they come from, and where they "seem" to want to go (even when they are delusional to a degree) is essential, if you care to make your own life stable. I have seen this work. Your grandmother (My mom), Meitar, a bona fide bipolar, as you know, was too, notoriously hypersexual even at the advanced age of her 60’s, irresponsibly getting herself into trouble with men younger and older than her, men who had nothing to offer her, other than her exploits. When Bipolar, all the hallmark “disordered manic behaviors” such as delusional grandiosity, spending sprees, and of course, hyper sexuality etc. are the most serious roadblocks on the road to stability, because stability, more than anything else is measured and percieved in comparison to others. I am struck by your apparent awareness of your own vulnerabilities, as much as by your lack of awareness of others’. Please don’t get me wrong. I am not judging you. In fact, I know how sensitive you can be to others. Yet your general tendency is to be aloof, inconsiderate and solitair. I believe that your “case” is, thankfully, mild, both in this tendency as well as in your other “bipolar expressions”.

Considering OTHERS’ vulnerabilities can become a powerful asset in dealing with people, especially those who are closest. Knowing where they come from, and where they “seem” to want to go (even when they are delusional to a degree) is essential, if you care to make your own life stable. I have seen this work.

]]> By: Meitar http://maymay.net/blog/2004/11/24/address-book-full-of-empty-web-pages/comment-page-1/#comment-115 Meitar Wed, 24 Nov 2004 13:04:17 +0000 /?p=135#comment-115 No, actually, I haven't thought about that. There has always been little doubt in my mind that she is not entirely stable. That's evident, not as criticism, but as a very apparent behavioral trend. Danica has told me many times about this time of year being the most difficult for her. And I can relate; I absolutely abhor winter. It's so easy to slip into a depression! But...I had not ever put two and two together and considered the effect of the BPD on her sexuality. Which, admittedly, is stupid of me. I have some questions about it, though, as I'm only familiar with it from my own perspective. And, aside from the fact that I'm male, I'm a very different sexual being from her. It would be enlightening to get a female perspective (if I wouldn't be prying). I'd imagine a method of communication such as email would be more suited for a discussion like that, though. Thanks for all your comments so far, too. No, actually, I haven’t thought about that. There has always been little doubt in my mind that she is not entirely stable. That’s evident, not as criticism, but as a very apparent behavioral trend. Danica has told me many times about this time of year being the most difficult for her.

And I can relate; I absolutely abhor winter. It’s so easy to slip into a depression! But…I had not ever put two and two together and considered the effect of the BPD on her sexuality. Which, admittedly, is stupid of me.

I have some questions about it, though, as I’m only familiar with it from my own perspective. And, aside from the fact that I’m male, I’m a very different sexual being from her. It would be enlightening to get a female perspective (if I wouldn’t be prying). I’d imagine a method of communication such as email would be more suited for a discussion like that, though. Thanks for all your comments so far, too.

]]> By: blondzila http://maymay.net/blog/2004/11/24/address-book-full-of-empty-web-pages/comment-page-1/#comment-114 blondzila Wed, 24 Nov 2004 12:11:55 +0000 /?p=135#comment-114 Have you considered the possibility that her desires are a low-key hypersexuality, and as such, indicate a lack of BP stability? I'm not judging, believe me. One of these days I can explain the M-A-N-Y times I have been in situations similar to what Danica describes (or you describe as Danica wanting). I just thought you might want to consider that as a possibility. Have you considered the possibility that her desires are a low-key hypersexuality, and as such, indicate a lack of BP stability? I’m not judging, believe me. One of these days I can explain the M-A-N-Y times I have been in situations similar to what Danica describes (or you describe as Danica wanting). I just thought you might want to consider that as a possibility.

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