Comments on: Relapse: Unnecessary Turmoil http://maymay.net/blog/2005/02/13/relapse-unnecessary-turmoil/ The brutally honest, first-person account of Meitar Moscovitz's life. Tue, 06 Jan 2009 22:59:12 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: nick http://maymay.net/blog/2005/02/13/relapse-unnecessary-turmoil/comment-page-1/#comment-1695 nick Sun, 13 Feb 2005 20:21:10 +0000 /?p=180#comment-1695 Apple Pie... hmmm Apple Pie… hmmm

]]> By: Chris http://maymay.net/blog/2005/02/13/relapse-unnecessary-turmoil/comment-page-1/#comment-1694 Chris Sun, 13 Feb 2005 18:26:58 +0000 /?p=180#comment-1694 I wholeheartedly agree! Having been through this pain more than once, it is ALWAYS best to do what is best for you, no matter how hard that is. I wholeheartedly agree! Having been through this pain more than once, it is ALWAYS best to do what is best for you, no matter how hard that is.

]]> By: Meitar http://maymay.net/blog/2005/02/13/relapse-unnecessary-turmoil/comment-page-1/#comment-1693 Meitar Sun, 13 Feb 2005 18:13:21 +0000 /?p=180#comment-1693 Thank you. I'm feeling much better now, and overall, much more optimistic. Of course, this is a swing. And I'm expecting to swing back to tears. The important thing, I think, is that I'll be ready for it when it hits me. Thank you. I’m feeling much better now, and overall, much more optimistic.

Of course, this is a swing. And I’m expecting to swing back to tears. The important thing, I think, is that I’ll be ready for it when it hits me.

]]> By: Meitar http://maymay.net/blog/2005/02/13/relapse-unnecessary-turmoil/comment-page-1/#comment-1692 Meitar Sun, 13 Feb 2005 18:12:03 +0000 /?p=180#comment-1692 Would it be apple pie? Please let it be apple pie. *hugs* Would it be apple pie? Please let it be apple pie. *hugs*

]]> By: blondzila http://maymay.net/blog/2005/02/13/relapse-unnecessary-turmoil/comment-page-1/#comment-1691 blondzila Sun, 13 Feb 2005 17:26:12 +0000 /?p=180#comment-1691 You've got love and support all round you, May. Chose the healthy path. You're a smart man. What you were receiving was not love, not really. Nick is right: let yourself be and feel this. Follow this path. Going backwards would be causing yourself more pain. This will pass, and you will come out the other side stronger for it. I know it doesn't feel that way now, but you will. You’ve got love and support all round you, May. Chose the healthy path. You’re a smart man. What you were receiving was not love, not really. Nick is right: let yourself be and feel this. Follow this path. Going backwards would be causing yourself more pain. This will pass, and you will come out the other side stronger for it. I know it doesn’t feel that way now, but you will.

]]> By: Gabrielle http://maymay.net/blog/2005/02/13/relapse-unnecessary-turmoil/comment-page-1/#comment-1689 Gabrielle Sun, 13 Feb 2005 13:57:15 +0000 /?p=180#comment-1689 Oh God. I would make you pie if I could. Oh God. I would make you pie if I could.

]]> By: Amberflame http://maymay.net/blog/2005/02/13/relapse-unnecessary-turmoil/comment-page-1/#comment-1688 Amberflame Sun, 13 Feb 2005 13:44:11 +0000 /?p=180#comment-1688 I whole-heartedly agree with Nick:-)I replied to your e-mail! Just remember to be kind and patient with yourself!! Blessings! *C* I whole-heartedly agree with Nick:-)I replied to your e-mail! Just remember to be kind and patient with yourself!!

Blessings!

*C*

]]> By: Nick http://maymay.net/blog/2005/02/13/relapse-unnecessary-turmoil/comment-page-1/#comment-1687 Nick Sun, 13 Feb 2005 12:55:37 +0000 /?p=180#comment-1687 Even though it doesn't feel like it, please know that you are doing fine. Everything you described about your feelings in the face of this pain is ABSOLUTELY adequate, makes sense emotionally, and clearly truthful and complete. And as long as you do not cheat yourself of being aware of the full brunt of the pain, frustration and what seems to you like weakness - with integrity and willingness to express that to whoever is willing to listen (hopefully primarily YOURSELF) - by talking or writing, - then you are going THROUGH the experience, assimilating its lesson, and making sure to finish the business. Dodging and avoiding this experience by either getting into "silence treatment mode" or drugging yourself to numbness, or devaluing its impact, or acting up a rage, or giving into a bipolar episode, either manic or depressive, or drowning yourself in distractions... etc - would leave all the heavy pain load in your heart and mind to haul, the business unfinished, and all your energies would be sapped to manage this burden. Let yourself BE. You are sorrounded by love, admiration and respect. Even though it doesn’t feel like it, please know that you are doing fine. Everything you described about your feelings in the face of this pain is ABSOLUTELY adequate, makes sense emotionally, and clearly truthful and complete. And as long as you do not cheat yourself of being aware of the full brunt of the pain, frustration and what seems to you like weakness - with integrity and willingness to express that to whoever is willing to listen (hopefully primarily YOURSELF) - by talking or writing, - then you are going THROUGH the experience, assimilating its lesson, and making sure to finish the business. Dodging and avoiding this experience by either getting into “silence treatment mode” or drugging yourself to numbness, or devaluing its impact, or acting up a rage, or giving into a bipolar episode, either manic or depressive, or drowning yourself in distractions… etc - would leave all the heavy pain load in your heart and mind to haul, the business unfinished, and all your energies would be sapped to manage this burden.
Let yourself BE. You are sorrounded by love, admiration and respect.

]]> By: Starting my Exercise Log » Ups and Downs and Everything Beyond http://maymay.net/blog/2005/02/13/relapse-unnecessary-turmoil/comment-page-1/#comment-2117 Starting my Exercise Log » Ups and Downs and Everything Beyond Wed, 31 Dec 1969 19:00:00 +0000 /?p=180#comment-2117 [...] . No, nothing really happened. I made the mistake of doing my thinking with the wrong head <a href="http://www.maymay.net/blog/archives/2005/02/13/relapse-unnecessary-turmoil/" title="Engaging in sexual activities right after a break-up just isn't he [...] [...] . No, nothing really happened. I made the mistake of doing my thinking with the wrong head ]]> By: My Relationship’s Hind-insight » Ups and Downs and Everything Beyond http://maymay.net/blog/2005/02/13/relapse-unnecessary-turmoil/comment-page-1/#comment-1709 My Relationship’s Hind-insight » Ups and Downs and Everything Beyond Wed, 31 Dec 1969 19:00:00 +0000 /?p=180#comment-1709 [...] You must play in it. The reason I was so upset with myself when Danica and I had sex the <a href="http://www.maymay.net/blog/archives/2005/02/13/relapse-unnecessary-turmoil/" title="Having sex with Danica made things very hard that night.">other ni [...] [...] You must play in it. The reason I was so upset with myself when Danica and I had sex the other ni [...]

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