- Watch http://live.kinkontap.com ♺ @KinkOnTap: Tonight's panelists @filamentmag & @SyzygyMagazine. We'll talk dirty mags, female gaze & more! #
- @urbantantrika Depends on habit of online #community. I prefer combo of social network+email. Use specific outlets for specific communiqués. in reply to urbantantrika #
- @urbantantrika Ah. Consider making an "octopus network." 1 central site (WordPress MU?) w/many social network groups to funnel user to main. in reply to urbantantrika #
- @urbantantrika See examples of "octopus networks" for online communities in @Genderfork, @KinkOnTap, & especially @KinkForAll. :) Good luck! in reply to urbantantrika #
- @wilhelminawang "Octopus network" is my term for a social #media strategy involving 1 main site+many peripheral groups: http://bit.ly/6njdFz in reply to wilhelminawang #
- We're already broadcasting w/ @filamentmag & @SyzygyMagazine on air! Watch us talk dirty mags & the female gaze at http://Live.KinkOnTap.com #
- Tonight's @KinkOnTap was awesome fun! Thx to @filamentmag & @SyzygyMagazine for the really eye-opening and (ahem…) exciting conversation! :) #
- I'm too spent to cook tonight so ramen has been nominated as my dinner. Also, there aren't really many other options. I need to go shopping. #
- This #TEDTalk by Golan Levin would've been better if I were totally stoned. Interestingly, he mentioned Arse Elektronika. http://ur1.ca/gszx #
- Tempting to keep doing work tonight. Continue post-processing @KinkOnTap audio, post another MaleSubmissionArt.com photo? But I'm exhausted. #
Archive for November, 2009
My tweets on 2009-11-30
My tweets on 2009-11-29
- Back in San Francisco but in a bit of a daze from the week. Ate breakfast, complained to Chase Bank (still/again/fuck you, Chase). Now…work? #
- New #KFADC vids: @writingdirty's Writing About Sex http://vimeo.com/7871031 & @helio_girl's Wandering Out of Closet http://vimeo.com/7871403 #
- Today felt really odd. I just finished a sound check for tomorrow's @KinkOnTap, earlier I got more videos from #KFADC up…yet I feel…distant. #
- On Thanksgiving day, 15 ppl shared my talk on #Sexual #Adultism & #youth oppression w/ someone they know. Will you? http://vimeo.com/7783159 #
My tweets on 2009-11-28
- Lazy days can be a luxury worth indulging in. Strangely, I did wake from a bad dream in which my boyfriend died from an allergy to chicpeas. #
- I have lots of trouble staying put. If my body isn't active, my brain has to be. I get antsy & frustrated if I'm not experiencing something. #
- @ASimon89 I watch #videos at http://TED.com to keep myself engaged. Some think my inability to turn off is a curse. I think it's a blessing. in reply to ASimon89 #
- I never really "hung out" cuz there's nothing innately interesting about anyone to me. You need to prove yourself worthwhile for me to care. #
- @jamesbcarp Ooh, maybe? I get back on Saturday so Sunday Go is a possibility. But my new 9-5 routine might mean I need to reevaluate timing. in reply to jamesbcarp #
- @ASimon89 I can often find interesting things about uninteresting people, but I don't care about THEM, only their interesting properties. :) in reply to ASimon89 #
- @RevDebra You're not. "Black Friday" is a classic case of horrendous #usability. It's a phrase only producers, not consumers, care about. :\ in reply to RevDebra #
My tweets on 2009-11-27
- In Michigan for Thanksgiving dinner w/ @helio_girl's family conversation starts w/my applicability as holiday sacrifice. This is going well. #
- Ok, I'm checking you out @Sexipedia. But I'm instantly annoyed by log in/make acct requirement just to see Main Page. Onerous & off putting. in reply to Sexipedia #
- @Sexipedia Hitting Random Page lots, I see many issues. Seems parser function extensions is off, others as well: http://twitpic.com/r1a2b :\ in reply to Sexipedia #
My tweets on 2009-11-26
- @BritLuckyPaul Yes, #kink. All of taoist sex, friendly cuddling, polyamory, and bisexuality are described as kinky: http://vimeo.com/6660396 in reply to BritLuckyPaul #
My tweets on 2009-11-25
- @BritLuckyPaul Are you serious? No #sexuality events are more prone to #adultism than ones you call #kink. TNG's young is 35 for christsake! in reply to BritLuckyPaul #
- @nikolasco I love that you+others want people to show up to @KinkForAll yet I don't think we need to compromise or appease to succeed in it. in reply to nikolasco #
- Catching up w/ #KFADC reactions on blogs, Twitter, FetLife, etc. Awesomeness prevails! But I've work to do, so I'll see you later, Internet. #
- @nikolasco FTR, I greatly appreciate your persistence with #KFADC. My opinions on recording issues are mine+unchanging. You did a great job. in reply to nikolasco #
- @splicer I think TNG is dated & mostly a total mess. The entire notion of age-based restrictions, in either direction, is silly & unhelpful. #
- How many times do #Taoists aim to stroke genitals during #sex? @nikolasco's #KFADC talk is jam-packed w/ neat info: http://vimeo.com/7806625 #
- Working hard on getting a @KinkOnTap episode published tonight. Had a great, short convo about #KFADC w/@nikolasco earlier. Many thx to him! #
- Thank you so much, @nikolasco. ♺ @KinkOnTap: Episode 17: Sexual #Adultism and an Interview with Nikolas Coukouma http://KinkOnTap.com/?p=189 #
My tweets on 2009-11-24
- @MollyRen You'd be surprised how many folk probably do listen to what you have to say online—I'm always meeting lurkers who somehow know me. in reply to MollyRen #
- #KFADC was great! Now @helio_girl & I drive 7hrs back to Providence. Hopefully we'll make it in time for @KinkOnTap at 8. Will tweet if not! #
- #Traffic clusterfucks lost us lots of time. Not canceling @KinkOnTap yet but we might start 30min late. More updates soon. Wish us godspeed! #
- Sadly, hrs in #traffic & 3 near-crashes mean we can't do @KinkOnTap tonight. Sorry! We'll try to get something short published later anyway. #
- Have to cancel live taping of @KinkOnTap tonight. :( If people can hang in the chat rooms to let anyone waiting know, I'll brain-hug you. :) #
- Finally arriving home. #Traffic extended our trip by 3+hrs! Disappointed to cancel @KinkOnTap's live recording but we'll think of something. #
- After needed rest I'm post-processing mounds of video from #KFADC. Thrilled that schedule grid is filling up already! http://tr.im/kfadcgrid #
- @BritLuckyPaul Making #KinkForAll focused on BDSM is NOT OKAY cuz the word "kink" does not belong to the BDSM/play/demo presenter community. in reply to BritLuckyPaul #
- ♺ @nikolasco: At #KFADC? It'd be lovely if you helped fill out the schedule http://tr.im/kfadcgrid or give feedback http://tr.im/kfadcsurvey #
- @ASimon89 Link? :) Also, tag your posts w/'KFADC' & 'KinkForAll' for aggregators to catch it and show it in places like http://bit.ly/518r7W in reply to ASimon89 #
- Post-processing #pics that I took at #KFADC. I'm blurring some faces that have red stars on nametags. But some have red AND green stars…WTF? #
- I just added a dozen or so #photos from #KFADC to the @KinkForAll group on Flickr: http://flickr.com/groups/kinkforall/ That was so awesome! #
- @DDog Maybe. But seriously, this is precisely why I'm so adamant about simplicity—there should just be 1 option: red sticker=no pics. #KFADC in reply to DDog #
- @ASimon89 I appreciate that, but respecting recording requests is more important. The multiple-sticker confusion is really a problem. #KFADC in reply to ASimon89 #
- Just got reply from Planned Parenthood re #KFADC. Ever seen Enter The Dragon? Y'know the final scene where the army shows up too late? Yeah. #
- @nikolasco I'm not personally cool w/that. Public events like #KFADC should be public. There's no opt-in on a street, so too at @KinkForAll. in reply to nikolasco #
- @nikolasco Til I see tourists walking around w/cameras AND model releases on streets, I'm unconvinced opt-in is appropriate for @KinkForAll. in reply to nikolasco #
- @nikolasco I appreciate that, which is why communication clarity is paramount. I personally think opt-in is a mistake, but #KFABOS did that. in reply to nikolasco #
- @raxvulpine Don't see a diff btw "opt" & "opt-in." If required to do that, you're minimally required to opt-in to participate. Not the same. in reply to raxvulpine #
- @raxvulpine Exactly. Doing that is an obvious and clear indication of a desire to participate. Why add extra barriers like photo "policies"? in reply to raxvulpine #
- @raxvulpine There are MANY reasons why some won't come to @KinkForAll. Why make rules to placate THOSE folks but not do the same for others? in reply to raxvulpine #
- @raxvulpine Of course! It changed #KFABOS. I still think it was a mistake—note how many participants changed their stickers mid-way thru. ;) in reply to raxvulpine #
- @nikolasco I'm not sure I follow. Explicit choice != more responsible decision-making & the pester factor = barrier to smooth communication. in reply to nikolasco #
- @raxvulpine Ppl changed stickers frm "opt-out" to "opt-in" @ #KFABOS. Blog post: http://tr.im/FC2y Many REGRETTED not recording their talks. in reply to raxvulpine #
- @nikolasco I see. Still think act of showing up shows intent. Onus should be on us to communicate best we can to help folk make THAT choice. in reply to nikolasco #
- @raxvulpine It's a tough issue. Given the nature of @KinkForAll, etc., I strongly favor simplicity. Clarity is paramount. Assume good faith. in reply to raxvulpine #
- @nikolasco What's wrong w/presumption coupled w/active effort to inform? @KinkForAll's NOTHING like "prevailing norms" of alt sex community. in reply to nikolasco #
My tweets on 2009-11-23
- #KFADC was great! Now @helio_girl & I drive 7hrs back to Providence. Hopefully we'll make it in time for @KinkOnTap at 8. Will tweet if not! #
- #Traffic clusterfucks lost us lots of time. Not canceling @KinkOnTap yet but we might start 30min late. More updates soon. Wish us godspeed! #
- Sadly, hrs in #traffic & 3 near-crashes mean we can't do @KinkOnTap tonight. Sorry! We'll try to get something short published later anyway. #
- Have to cancel live taping of @KinkOnTap tonight. :( If people can hang in the chat rooms to let anyone waiting know, I'll brain-hug you. :) #
- Finally arriving home. #Traffic extended our trip by 3+hrs! Disappointed to cancel @KinkOnTap's live recording but we'll think of something. #
My tweets on 2009-11-22
- ♺ @KinkForAll #KFADC is a free day of #sex #education presos. Just show up & help if you can. How? http://tr.im/Fh6s More http://tr.im/kfadc #
- Touched down in Providence. Managed some rest if not sleep on the flight. Got more writing and thinking done on my #KFADC presentation, tho. #
- Super excited to see @helio_girl once I get off the plane. I'll request & simultaneously offer hugs+cuddles. Probably also sexual favors. :) #
- Does any1 know if #KFADC will have a #digital #projector? If not, where can I get one to make sure it does? Preferably cheap, rental option. #
- @livingsexuality Talk to @clarissethorn, who started the Sex+++ documentary #film #series in Chicago. I think she'll offer some good advice. #
- Working at a #TimHorton's. Mgmt asked me to leave so I buy more. They're still interrupting me. I'll never be back. #customer #service #fail #
- Up early and heading to #KFADC. Acquired projector, finished presentation in marathon 14hr work session & even managed to sleep. Time to go! #
- #Opening comms by @nikolasco has started. He's going thru legal reminders. People laughing at the vagueness of the law's definitions. #KFADC #
- Yeah, space for #KFADC isn't compartmentalizee at all. I hope presentations don't get interrupted by nearby chatter. We'll keep voices down. #
- #KFADC starts off with @MollyRen talking about #Feederism. Apparently there are (ONLY) 2 dating web sites for ppl who think "fat" is erotic. #
- At #KFADC @MollyRen says mainstream depictions of #feederism show fat women w/extremely skinny men—reverse gender roles are totally ignored. #
- "Can you even come out of the #closet on a fetish so rare it's not even on most kinky people's radar…?" @MollyRen says at #KFADC. #feederism #
- Yet another reason why language is crucial—figuring out the terminology of the sexual stuff helped @MollyRen find partners to engage. #KFADC #
- Fat activists don't like ppl into #feederism. Why? Maybe cuz it has a particularly bad rap & suffers from mainstream body image, too. #KFADC #
- Biggest website for #feederism is http://MySpace.com. Ppl there also often aren't on any of either of the two dating websites for it. #KFADC #
- Next, @Nikolasco is talking abt "Taoist Sexual Practices" for the next #KFADC. Only 1 presentation on at a time? Ppl seem content to listen. #
- ♺ @KinkForAll: Avail yourself to the amazing shmorgasboard of #breakfast goodies. Bagels, tangerines and bunches of free soda. Enjoy! #KFADC #
- Taoists believed that #abstinence is particularly unhealthy & can even be damaging to people's, @nikolasco tells us all at #KFADC. Huh…okay. #
- I wish we had more computers at #KFADC. We have an amazing amount of bandwidth but not enough Internet-enabled equipment for a #live stream. #
- Yes! @nikolasco is a @KinkForAll hero. ♺ @viviane212: Kudos to @nikolasco for all the (un)organizing he did to make #KFADC happen! 3 cheers! #
- #KFADC @nikolasco: "I was looking at #taoism Wikipedia page; it says #sex is good, healthy & can lead to immortality. Sounds awesome to me!" #
- Michael Rios talking at #KFADC about inherent violence in dominant society. #Sexuality is free yet culture has made it scarce and expensive. #
- "Some people have made the analysis that the only way to have war is to have #sexual #repression," Michael Rios says at #KFADC. Interesting. #
- Whoa: "for centuries, major driving factor to get #men to join the army is to have the opportunity to #rape women." That's fucked up. #KFADC #
- Cool! Many others are tweeting at #KFADC. Check out @shadowandfire, @helio_girl & @MollyRen, among others. Or look at http://tr.im/kfadclive #
- Michael Rios: "Most of us are conditioned to either say 'no' or 'yes' all the time. It's often difficult to actually make a #choice." #KFADC #
- I'm going to be doing a talk on #adultism & #youth #sexual #oppression at #KFADC next. I'm nervous, but discussions are already about youth. #
- My #presentation went well. I got surrounded w/ questions & comments afterwards, which is a really good sign. I'm glad I got a video. #KFADC #
- The "how to start young person's group" presentation is full of tips: choose public venue close to mass transit, etc. Sounds like #KFADC. ;) #
- Re TNG presentation: I think "advertising for people" and "recruitment" is the WRONG idea. This is not an army. Use neutral language. #KFADC #
- Disagree w/as much as I agree w/in "young person's group" preso. Agree youth are scared, disagree you'll "lose" 1 if they don't stay. #KFADC #
- I think the drive many people have to "recruit" people to The Scene™ is actually the biggest contributor to creep factor #youth feel. #KFADC #
- Unsurprisingly, seems that quite a number of presentations at #KFADC are about #youth. Turnout suffered from fear of minors—who ARE present. #
- Good point! "It's really important not to think about #masculinity but as masculinities" Chris says in his presentation about #men at #KFADC #
- @MollyRen I disagree; that's just an ageist spin on the discomfort we all feel when groups try to recruit is. Mormons, the army, etc. #KFADC in reply to MollyRen #
- Dominant paradigm of masculinity sees men as barbarians—interestingly, that's similar to radical feminist perspective. Yup. #KFADC #feminism #
- ♺ @nikolasco I strongly disagree with conservative theories of #maculinity; even having some trouble listening :/ but important to do #KFADC #
- "Conservative biological theories see #masculinity as a function of evolution." That's where men=stud, women=slut thing come from. :( #KFADC #
- @MollyRen I'm pretty sure the #masculinity presenter (Chris) doesn't actually believe these #conservative views. He's explaining them to us. #
- ♺ @olorwen Time did an article on state of USA women that's interesting in context of conserv masculinity. http://tinyurl.com/yhwhjff #KFADC #
- Taking a pseudo-break from tweeting in order to take some pictures & make sure the recording equipment is still up & running well. :) #KFADC #
- Exceptionally difficult to create spaces where #sex & #sexuality isn't eroticized—it should be ok to NOT have a hard on all the time. #KFADC #
- @writingdirty When @ASimon89 was wearing his sweater he was a lot like the @mrsexsmith in the room too. Maybe the 2 of you should get canes. in reply to writingdirty #
- One thing I really like about open space meetings & #unconferences is how free I feel to NOT participate in whatever I don't want to. #KFADC #
- @DarthBitsy Sure, but "promote" is very different than "recruit" or "advertise." I would encourage #community orgs to keep intentions clear. in reply to DarthBitsy #
- Sarah Taub is leading an "experiential exercise" in remaining connected to another person while you're connected w/yourself. I think. #KFADC #
- @writingdirty Totally agree. I don't think that would be inappropriate for @KinkForAll, tho. #Sexuality is often connected to #spirituality. in reply to writingdirty #
- Strongly seconded. :) ♺ @trouthead: [I'm] too much of a spaz to connect w/myself right now. but greatly appreciates the presentation. #KFADC #
- Loraine Hutchins talking about personal experiences as a #bisexuality #activist at #KFADC. She mentions how 'kink' definitions vary wildly. #
- Loraine's talk switched into story readings. Very smooth. Although now I'm sadly less interested. Not my fav format but good writing! #KFADC #
- Gerard & @DDog's #KFADC discussion is on the Q: defining "queer," "questioning," and similar ideas. I like that #queer can mean "curiosity." #
- Hah! I love that! Best #neologism to come out of #KFADC: "queerious." :) ♺ @nikolasco: @maymaym queer-as-in-curious/interested = #queerious? #
- #Queer doesn't inherently define what you DO as the words from #GLBT often do. Like #kink, it's much more often about you are ARE. ;) #KFADC #
- Now at #Youth and #Leadership presentation by Evan. Mostly it's just us young'uns listening, so it's going to be a circle discussion. #KFADC #
- 3 sessions at once=difficult to choose what I want to go to. That's great. :) Now at @helio_girl's "Wandering out of the closet" discussion. #
- @shadowandfire Aww…. Evan thought !Youth & #Leadership preso didn't have enough interest, but even w/just a few of us, it was useful! #KFADC in reply to shadowandfire #
- Everyone seems to have a different "coming out" story. Not all of 'em are about #sex. What might the world be like when nobody has 1? #KFADC #
- @shadowandfire Aww…. Evan thought #Youth & #Leadership preso didn't have enough interest, but even w/just a few of us, it was useful! #KFADC #
- "Personal risk is what you make of it" says @helio_girl. That's a very important point. People are vulnerable about different things. #KFADC #
- "It's about trusting that, by & large, the world is not out get you," @helio_girl says. "And in where it is, I'll get it right back." #KFADC #
- Amazing how many presentations are eagerly running long. @helio_girl's talk is still on but I'm now at "Gay Sfraight Alliances" #KFADC #GLBT #
- Fantastic point in #GSA talk: many ppl don't realize how vital a supportive school admin is to running an effective GSA. #youth #GLBT #KFADC #
- #Youth need support from adult allies. Visibility is very important to have ppl to talk to, to know you're okay. #Signs do help. #GSA #KFADC #
- Running around like a chicken w/my head cut off to pick up the #timekeepers' role at #KFADC. Offered it to others to spread howto knowledge. #
My tweets on 2009-11-21
- Does any1 know if #KFADC will have a #digital #projector? If not, where can I get one to make sure it does? Preferably cheap, rental option. #
- @livingsexuality Talk to @clarissethorn, who started the Sex+++ documentary #film #series in Chicago. I think she'll offer some good advice. in reply to livingsexuality #
- Working at a #TimHorton's. Mgmt asked me to leave so I buy more. They're still interrupting me. I'll never be back. #customer #service #fail #
