Adapted from a message-board posting of mine:
My girlfriend has been extremely irritable for weeks now. It’s adding untold loads of frustration on to me.
We got in a huge fight tonight after I apparently said something which she percieved as a personal attack (and which I didn’t even think could be interpreted that way). It was the third time tonight that has happened. I just couldn’t take it anymore. I’m usually very, very good about controlling my temper but this has been going on for too long already.
As an explanation, my girlfriend offers the facts that she is away from home for the holidays, and works long days on her feet at work. That’s all very nice and well, I think, but it still doesn’t grant her permission to get upset with me all the time.
Case in point, I spent the day with my mother cleaning out the new apartment my girlriend and I are moving into, and so I had unpacked her toiletries (toothbrush, tweezer, perfume, etc.) in the new apartment. I had also unpacked some of her laundry, some of which was currently in the wash. When she arrived home tonight, I went to the door to hug her. But she blew right past me, saying something about not wanting to be hugged, walked into the apartment and upon seeing the laundry out of the case, demanded to know what I had done with her things.
Turns out, I wasn’t supposed to unpack her stuff because she never asked me to, and the fact that I had induced a crying fit reminiscent of a funeral. In not so many words, I was blamed for ruining her day, and yet throughout this I still kept my cool.
But throughout the night I kept “doing things wrong” and finally I just couldn’t take it anymore. I told her I wanted to spend the night elsewhere (i.e. not with her), and that’s when she broke down and started apologizing. Which she always does. And I gave in and stayed. Which I always do.
Which I resent now because I’m up at 5 AM and can’t sleep.