My tweets on 2009-10-13

  • Couldn't work much today. Instead, I am emotionally wrought to the point where parsing sentences is actually difficult. This is draining. :( #
  • @SoraiLaFey Thank you for taking the time to talk w/me the other day. @misscalico Thank you for doing the same today. I miss you both a lot. #
  • Self, stop avoiding sleep. Time keeps on, you can't do anything about it. Be grateful; it means you won't feel this bad forever. Sleep, now. #
  • I feel completely incongruent with the bright & beautiful weather today. I wish it were gloomy out instead, so I wouldn't feel so lost. #sad #
  • @benbalbo Internally !Laconica calls micro-messages "notices," which I like a lot. I suppose if you made that a verb it would be "noticing"? #
  • In 3 hours, I'm (ostensibly) presenting on @Drupal & the #semantic #Web http://groups.drupal.org/node/18999 but I've done zero prep. Advice? #
  • @lauras I haven't seen Shelley's work so THANK YOU for the pointer. I found her great post on adding #RDFa to @Drupal 6: http://tr.im/rdfad6 in reply to lauras #
  • @ryancross Good to hear that at least 1 person thought my presentation was "excellent." :P Also, thx for the pub chatter afterwards. Really. in reply to ryancross #
  • @juansequeda & interested others—Notes for my @Drupal & #semantic #Web talk are at http://maymay.net/maymay/tech/semdrupal/presentation.html in reply to juansequeda #
  • @juansequeda No, I'm not a @Drupal RDFa developer, just an avid user & enthusiastic contributor—for Drupal I mostly help with documentation. in reply to juansequeda #
  • On my way to bed at 4 AM, I realize I've ingested nothing but 2 coffees all day. Scary? Not really: depression reduces my monthly food bill. #
  • @Allyeska @Simonvw @spellrus I got heat for http://tr.im/realsyd but agree: Oz THINKS it's less conservative than it is. 1 reason I'm going. in reply to Allyeska #
  • @Allyeska @Chisa I've been to #burlesque shows but never gone to strip clubs. Former are like short stage plays, latter exploits BOTH sexes. in reply to Allyeska #
  • @spellrus Certainly good pockets of open minds but that does not a community, or a decent opportunity for sociosexual happiness make for me. in reply to spellrus #
  • @raena Sadly, no, I never made it to Melbourne & EVERYBODY says that. Oddly, I was told by many before I arrived Sydney was the place to be. #
  • @raena Haha, good description! ;) At times I heavily regret not going to Melbourne instead, but what's done is done. I need to move forward. #
  • @raena It's not a lack of intelligence that inspired my distaste for Sydney actually. Plenty of smarts here, especially in tech communities. #
  • @raena Hard to say this in 140chars: I'm leaving cuz to me Sydney is akin to bumfuck nowhere where nobody does or can talk about bumfucking! #
  • @raena Ok good—I think we're on the same page. To me Sydney's scenes feel like a flashback to 1970 where http://maybemaimed.com can't exist. #
  • I'm not sure if this is real but I was just emailed by someone claiming to be a writer for http://TimeOutNY.com wanting to plug @KinkForAll. #
  • RT @KinkForAll: Sad some won't be at #KFANYC for fear of being recorded…hope 1 day we'll live where such fear is unfounded…that's not today. #
  • @stav You'd install your own !Laconica server for autonomy, not for internal monologues, since you can still converse with other servers. :) #
  • @stav Yeah; if Identi.ca is down you can still talk to other instances. Running your own !Laconica also means provably owning your own data. #
  • @madalu What issues are you having with !Laconica regaring remote conversations? I can subscribe to http://army.twit.tv people w/o problems. #
  • @stav :) Fair enough. I use these notices for many purposes (many personal) & thus absolutely desire to own material in my own #life-stream. #
  • @stav I've also granted @CreativeCommons rights to my musings here http://identi.ca/notice/2358280 but Rights !== Ownership !== Autonomy. :) #
  • @madalu :) I also love being able to subscribe to people on other servers. It makes #Twitter and @Facebook feel SO last century, doesn't it? #
  • @stav I heard about guilt-by-accusation laws in New Zealand http://ur1.ca/1ow0 I think it's evil & draconian. I hope freedom prevails there. #
  • @katebornstein @urbantantrika I'd be very interested in hearing your take on "politics of outness" issue raised by #KFANYC http://tr.im/gBhp #
  • I am particularly sensitive today. :( A DM that said @KinkForAll is "unethical" has really hurt me, even though I think it wasn't malicious. #
  • @saraeileen I often feel many don't grok what it's like to have no space. I fight painfully to make one not cuz I want to but cuz I need to. #
  • @audaciaray Agreed. Personal responsibility always trumps police actions when anarchic collaboration is the means to an end—as it should be. in reply to audaciaray #
  • @misscalico As you know, #men without erectile dysfunction don't take #Viagra for the women in their lives. They take it for their own egos. in reply to misscalico #
  • Maybe if I consider today a weekend it would make me feel better about getting nothing done…it's too painful feeling excommunicated to work. #
  • "for men, acknowledging one's submissive sexual tendencies is not well-received by many, not even in BDSM" #ThingsYouDidntKnowBeforeYouMetMe #
  • @maymaym That was a quote from a convo on http://FetLife.com which is proving itself a decently okay bastion of Good. I'm gonna take a walk. #
  • Goddamn it. I took a walk & managed to distract myself for a while. Sure enough, I can't help not sobbing the moment I walk into our apt. :( #
  • Yet more child-porn FUD being used to justify stupid legislation. RT @webmink: US politicians declare war on DHCP: http://tinyurl.com/dk7abf #
  • Looks like @alexkingorg's latest Twitter Tools @WordPress plugin (version 1.6) finally restores correct daily digest posting of tweets. Yay. #
  • @saraeileen Happy birthday. I'm sorry I didn't get you anything for today…hopefully rose quartz and crocodile skin from Cairns will suffice. #
  • @GoSC_Melvar Don't use `image/svg-xml`, use `image/svg+xml`. Note the plus—not the minus. You might also see: http://wiki.svg.org/Inline_SVG in reply to GoSC_Melvar #
  • Woman asks: How do I [non-verbally] communicate my desire for submissive ppl…not vanilla men who typically proposition me? http://tr.im/gDk0 #
  • @maymaym Interesting! What performance markers do #dominant #women and #submissive #men have to communicate their desires, & who chose them? #
  • Way to avoid crying at home while hosting guests: turn a walk to a corner store into a 3hr stroll…at least I got @SaraEileen birthday gifts. #
  • #Sydney tweeps, party+sale at my place: Books/computers/spare disk drives/hardware/furniture/etc. for CHEAP. Call 04 1613 5021, DM or email. #
  • OH @ashenphoenix explaining a reasoning behind Canberra's political existence: No, Melbourne had a better penis but Sydney had a bigger one. #
  • LOVE how many http://FetLife.com/groups loudly decry S/speaking L/like T/this A/about D/dominance O/or S/submission. "Slashspeak" is stupid. #
  • @calypto You're not alone—to ignorant people BDSM power #dynamics = #heteronormative ones. Man=dominant, woman=submissive. Sexist indeed! :( in reply to calypto #
  • Shit, I'm listed as a speaker for @Sex20Con http://www.sex20con.com/2009-speakers/ Gotta figure out if I can afford to go; I REALLY want to! #
  • I'm mourning more losses than I can bear. My throat is hoarse, head is pounding & the room is still spinning. #RememberSuicideIsNotASolution #
  • @MollyRen Of course #dominant #women & #submissive #men are underrepresented. The interesting+helpful question, however, is why+how that is. in reply to MollyRen #
  • @standupkid That classic joke is one reason why I try to avoid the word "submissions" to indicate proposals and instead use "contributions." in reply to standupkid #
  • @JohnBaku I have a git-diff #patch available that adds basic #hCalendar support to http://FetLife.com/events pages. How do I send it to you? #
  • @katebornstein Not sure visiting a petting zoo will help me. But I was tempted to email you privately+ask for your perspective, which might. in reply to katebornstein #
  • Very seriously debating abandoning efforts at normal sleep cycles so that I'm more likely to be awake when North hemisphere friends will be. #
  • @standupkid Many #words have other meanings in #BDSM. "Play," "scene," "toy," "instrument," "safe" & "training" are some off top of my head. in reply to standupkid #
  • @SaraEileen Everything I do feels entirely improvised these days. Like my chocolate-pieces-and-tea-light substitute for a birthday cake…. :( in reply to SaraEileen #
  • Me: "I don't like it when you call me [strong]. I don't want to be strong." @SaraEileen: "What do you want to be?" Me: "Somebody else." #sad #
  • #Fairness is not about being equal (sameness), it's about being EQUIVALENT ie. having equal #opportunity to achieve different wants & needs. #
  • @NathanaelB That musing is from a draft sex blog post. Getting #fairness right is a big deal as "I get off on unfairness." http://tr.im/gGgp in reply to NathanaelB #
  • I ALMOST made it to a café w/o crying. Everything hurts. I want it to be 8 months ago or 8 months from now but am scared of both those. #sad #
  • @urbantantrika I'm struggling to find ways to do that that don't interfere with my professional commitments too much. I fear I'm failing. :( in reply to urbantantrika #
  • Envy of knowing @SaraEileen spends time w/@barrysaunders yet my close friends are ½ a world away is too unbearable not to say aloud. WWYouD? #
  • @misscalico Welcome to ejaculate. I'm shocked laundry detergents seem to be marketed to women considering how men need to use them for that. in reply to misscalico #
  • I wish social networks wouldn't use "friend" to indicate a connection cuz it terribly semantically misrepresents the function. Alternatives? #
  • @wheelyweb I argue it's NOT easy to understand. Also, what convention? @LinkedIn uses "connection," @Twitter uses "followers," and so on? ;) in reply to wheelyweb #
  • @BenWard This seems "layered." Can we abstract? Functional level describing generic social connection, another a context of that connection? in reply to BenWard #
  • Slowly working thru https://docs.google.com spreadsheet @SaraEileen & I have with columns "What," "By when," "How much," & "Is it done yet?" #
  • @oc_submissive Using a #MetaWeblogAPI enabled blog (eg, @WordPress), you can use #Google #Docs or MS #Word to compose posts, tables and all. in reply to oc_submissive #
  • Last wk's beautiful beach day was aborted+tomorrow's plan looks rained out. I was once told #anger is expectation unmet. There's anger here. #
  • @00Syd I do like "contact" or "connection" for their generality. One could say "connect w/ X" and then layer more subjective context on top. in reply to 00Syd #
  • @00Syd "How do you know this person"=useful in @Facebook's case—I see an issue w/using "friend" devoid of other options. Friend=meaningless. in reply to 00Syd #
  • Struggling to walk the line btw expressing sad or angry #emotions & keeping peace. I want both but sometimes one seems to cost me the other. #
  • @00Syd Also WTF is w/ "friending." The word is "befriending." Why does TEH #Internet turn people into #grammatical imbeciles? I mean really. in reply to 00Syd #
  • Crying so loudly a neighbor yelled out their window "Will you shut up or I'll call the police!" How did my home become solitary confinement? #
  • @voirol I'm ok. I closed the windows, called someone. I doubt the neighbor could identify it as me anyway. I live above a loud alley anyway. in reply to voirol #
  • Interesting to contemplate reasons why I tweet—1 keep digital records of my life 2 communicate w/others 3 mix 1+2—blurs personal boundaries. #
  • @oc_submissive I'm not talking about copy+pasting but about #publishing blog posts directly from #Google #Docs: http://tinyurl.com/cuprzc ;) in reply to oc_submissive #
  • @keyboardklatter @Anwyn Comparing sizes of possible good there is often a red herring…instead, I prefer to compare one's own endurance w/it. in reply to keyboardklatter #
  • @bellaforte Compromise is a bad tactic, in my opinion. Splitting the difference is only good for the leader—why give up a win/win so easily? in reply to bellaforte #
  • @romanticrope @SaschaK Sometimes taking care of others is a better oxygen mask than prioritizing differently—consider looking outside first. in reply to romanticrope #
  • @SaraEileen The people you care about, if they care about, will always want you to do what's best for yourself. They ask the same questions. in reply to SaraEileen #
  • @SaraEileen People you care about, if they care about you, will always want you to do what's best for yourself. They ask the same questions. in reply to SaraEileen #
  • @jane_l You can blame puritans+radical feminists for that. Irony of decrying others as emotionally crippled based on #sexuality escapes 'em. in reply to jane_l #
  • @mfmakichen @jane_l @Colleen_Lindsay You may be surprised how accurate Bodiced Damsels Seeking Men is to describe many perceptions of #BDSM. in reply to mfmakichen #
  • @jane_l The BDSM scene isn't what most think—it's in fact a microcosm of larger society, w/all the old prejudices displayed in all new ways. in reply to jane_l #
  • @evan Wow, thanks so much for uplifting email. :) It's a "little thing" that goes a very long way. You+team deserve "thank you"s lots+often! #
  • @jane_l It's difficult to express succinctly in 140char. You may find http://maybemaimed.com (my #sex + kink #blog) interesting+explanatory. in reply to jane_l #
  • Weather widgets lied; sea was warm & sunny & tumultuous & cathartic. @SaraEileen says, "The ocean's a good place to mourn," & I cry again. #
  • Not sure why it's taken me so long to decide that my new favorite #Subversion client is (drum roll pls…) #git. So now `alias svn='git svn'`. #
  • @ryancross I'm loathe to offer a tutorial on #git-svn for folk new to !git because it feels like telling people how to buy Vista Home Basic. in reply to ryancross #
  • @DominaCaffeine That's an old+very offensive trope of BDSM joke. I get where http://SomethingPositive.net is coming from but was NOT amused. in reply to DominaCaffeine #
  • @DominaCaffeine When #submissive #men's ineptitude stops being a butt for all jokes for #hegemonic #masculine #culture, I'll start laughing. in reply to DominaCaffeine #
  • @DominaCaffeine @jane_l It says something about BDSM communities when they opt-in as "audience" of humor that denigrates a constituent part. in reply to DominaCaffeine #
  • Today was sorrowfully bittersweet. I'm grateful for @SaraEileen's presence, despite being inconsolable. Tonight is contemplative & restless. #
  • @DmitryBaranovsk http://WashingtonPost.com using SVG/VML for dynamic graphics rendered by @RaphaelJS: http://tinyurl.com/d4zj7v via @ajaxian #
  • @ryancross Since I couldn't sleep, I decided to grant your wish for a blog post explaining how to use #git-svn: http://tinyurl.com/cry2tl ;) in reply to ryancross #
  • @RyanRoberts @johnallsopp's its author—see its site http://microformatique.com. I say buy! You may also like @emilylewis's http://tr.im/gJMY in reply to RyanRoberts #
  • Goddamnit. I hate—HATE—when companies make it impossible to find the "cancel my service" link on their web site. I'm looking at you, @iiNet. #
  • Sitting in a café watching a young woman cry on the shoulders of her friends. This is the 2nd lady I've seen crying today. Is it me, or Feb? #
  • @webchick I WISH I'd win awards for trivial patches—such trivialities are my biggest contributions to open source projects. ;) YAY FOR DOCS! in reply to webchick #
  • @wheelyweb I've scoured the @iiNet Toolbox, too. Closest to "cancel" is "Change your ADSL Plan" which sends you to an "Upgrade" form. #FAIL! in reply to wheelyweb #
  • I wonder if Ajaxian's http://tinyurl.com/d4zj7v on spotting SVG in the wild will make nay-sayers think twice about http://tinyurl.com/792wkq #
  • @wheelyweb I "updated" @iiNet bank acct details to 000-000…+sent support email. I shouldn't have to talk to a human to end Internet service. in reply to wheelyweb #
  • I've so often heard I'm "not emotionally stable" that it's odd to hear friends describe my recent sobbing as a "#normal emotional response." #
  • Can't grok why adding " to !Laconica's common_render_content() !regex is SO hard. http://tr.im/gL4R Grr on !PHP for making regexes==strings. #
  • Spicing up #blogging: I've shared a Google Doc as a draft post+invited selected contacts to leave comments & #brainstorm w/me. Great so far! #
  • So @iiNet REQUIRES "verbal confirmation" of ending service. What a PITA. Oh yeah…and my cancellation will cost me $200 AUD. Fucking "plans." #
  • Obama's speech http://tr.im/gLdL has news anchor @TerryMoran trying to grok @Twitter http://tr.im/gLdM They still say "on my #Twitter page." #
  • Hm. Obama equates dropping out of high #school with "quitting on your country." I dropped out of middle school and I MOVED UP a tax bracket. #
  • @sarahfrantz I share my president's love of learning however I, like #Mark #Twain, have never let my schooling interfere with my #education. in reply to sarahfrantz #
  • Crying one minute. The next, plugging in my headset to speak with my publisher on Skype. This should go well…right? Deep, deep breaths. #sad #
  • @ironrose13 Subjectively speaking http://Identi.ca is faster than @Twitter, has less downtime, has more features & is idealistically better. in reply to ironrose13 #
  • @katska But…it's not @Twitter? No, really, I see no reason not to use http://Identi.ca over #Twitter except to pander to the network effect. in reply to katska #
  • Big thank you to @JanesGuide, who says http://maybemaimed.com is Quality+Original! Soon I'm going to give you folks a present out of #happy. #
  • I see @SaraEileen so little these days that I feel anxious to be out while she's home…the precious few hours I have left with her slip away? #
  • Making creative SVG assets for @KinkForAll w/ @SaraEileen despite not being physically near her. Skin still aches but mind feels bit better. #
  • @katska Yes. http://Identi.ca is a better #Twitter than @Twitter but most people don't know about it. Lots of things in life are like this…. in reply to katska #
  • @ironrose13 Post to @Twitter from Identi.ca: http://identi.ca/settings/twitter I do this. Try watching+emulating me—email if have questions. in reply to ironrose13 #
  • Cramming as much liveblogging & A/V media production knowledge into my head as I can in preparation for helping #KFANYC. Not easy at 3:45AM. #
  • @eurydice72 You've been SO supportive, you're who I keep in mind when I think about how important it is to get @KinkForAll a net connection. in reply to eurydice72 #
  • !glbt !queer #Discrimination: RT @adrianlang, @ihdl: homosexuals got banned from #xbox live for their #sexual orientation http://ur1.ca/1xgq #
  • @webchick's brilliant+"shocking" #women in #FLOSS & challenges they face preso: http://tinyurl.com/dd5jnj via @adrianlang #
  • My "invite collaborators to help me blog" idea has proven spectacularly successful (at least this time). Now to sleep on the final draft. :) #
  • Sometimes when I wake up, for the first few hours I'm awake colors don't look the same to me as they do later in the day. Is that…like, bad? #
  • @crinkled Yes, actually, you should get that checked out. ;) I'd rather be unable to see colors not distinguish shapes. B&W's still pretty…. in reply to crinkled #
  • @discworldian Really? #Colors look different in the morning because my eyes were looking at red eyelids all night? How does that work? Link? in reply to discworldian #
  • @katebornstein That's a special kind of dumb. If only more men were smarter, like these boys will be: http://youtube.com/watch?v=bXjUPOJmChc in reply to katebornstein #
  • @SaraEileen Who thought @KinkForAll is SCARY? People who think #KFANYC or other sexuality events might be SCARY are exactly who should come! in reply to SaraEileen #
  • RT @echomikeromeo: Ppl don't believe that #sexism still exists. I've [fought] it all my life+it's made me hate the way I was born. It exists #
  • Another reason I effin' love #git: `git clone –mirror $URL` makes it ridiculously easy to do file #backups from my web server. No more tar. #
  • NYC DA: for-pay BDSM "activities arousing to the participants" will be prosecuted as #prostitution http://tinyurl.com/admajz via @misscalico #
  • @a_grue Night vision is a product of fluid my eyes constantly generate that breaks down in light? I'M A #SCIENCE #FICTION CREATURE! AWESOME! in reply to a_grue #
  • Saying same thing 5 different ways+still not trusted by people=upsetting. This ISN'T me playing king of the hill—this is followthrough. #sad #
  • "Looking fwd" to 3 days/2 nights alone as @SaraEileen spends weekend w/ @barrysaunders. Somehow I can't scrub the bitterness from my tongue. #
  • @maymaym Cuz I've gotten msgs: here are those murky personal boundaries; you—yes, you—should question your interpretation of my last notice. #
  • RT @JeniT: @psd I second that! "HTML is a living language & the HTML5 WG should behave more like the OED rather than the French Government." #
  • I don't know if I can go, but I got a $30 early bird @Sex20Con ticket anyway cuz I WANT to go that much. (Still don't like "Sex 2.0" name….) #
  • @clith I went exceedingly meta for !MacOSX group; I used a screen capture taken with Grab.app from the "About This Mac" floating window…. :) #
  • Dan Savage links http://MaleSubmissionArt.com http://tr.im/gQYb Would've been better if hadn't used "humiliating" as synonym for submissive. #
  • Well, fuck. I've inadvertently pulled an all-nighter & I THINK (but can't remember) if I'm supposed to be awake at 11 AM for an apt tour. :( #
  • Okay really. The Australian thing of allowing your realtor to invite folk into your home for 15min before you've moved out is FUCKING CRAZY. #
  • @anotheradwanker Also, THE ENTIRE SERVICE INDUSTRY is slower than a dead snail trapped under a rock but realtors are somehow all CHOP CHOP?! in reply to anotheradwanker #
  • @eurydice72 Well just fuck it then. When I grow up, I'm going to live on Mars. Secondary boon: maybe more beings who are more like me there. in reply to eurydice72 #
  • @rww #Publishing industry isn't dead enough…they feel a need to destroy their own future? Have they learned nothing from the music industry? in reply to rww #
  • Now I face the interminable question to sleep or not to sleep? At noon, no less. And just when I thought this weekend wouldn't be any worse. #
  • Yeah, okay, fuck this. Just fucking fuck it with a fucking fuck. I'm just going to give up on this idea that I'm going to sleep today. Fuck. #
  • @NathanaelB I can go HIGHER on the http://Cursebird.com ladder? You still follow me, right…? (I seem to have disinterested some tech folks.) in reply to NathanaelB #
  • Always amazed at how large the computing world is. I just had a nice chat with an IBM intern at a café who had never heard of !Vim or !Trac. #
  • Googling for the coolest, prettiest, auto-updating (without needing a page refresh) @Twitter, @Flickr, @Delicious, etc widgets. What to use? #
  • I know y'all have favorite #blog #widgets for @Flickr & @Delicious feeds—what are they? So far my fav @Twitter 1 http://tweetgrid.com/widget #
  • ♻ @elpie: ♻ @anitaborg_org: ♻ @susanmernit: @chrismessina calls for gender-balanced tech conferences http://ff.im/-1gcIY (i ♥ our ♂ allies!) #
  • Wow, for serious, the @WordPress #documentation is SERIOUSLY lacking. Thank god its APIs are relatively simple 'cause otherwise I'd be lost. #