On Being a Social Cyborg: How iCalendar Helps Me Fight Loneliness

Here’s a topic I’ve been meaning to write about ever since I was deeply depressed last Fall and Winter. Back then, I was incredibly lonely, and despite my best efforts I simply found it damn near impossible to do anything to improve my situation. That’s because my “best efforts” consistently lead me to dead-end resources …

And so, she was beautiful to me

She had blue skin. And so did he. He kept it hid And so did she. They searched for blue Their whole life through, Then passed right by – And never knew. —“Masks“ by Shel Silverstein I remember the sunlight on 8th Avenue and 15th Street that morning vividly. New York City is beautiful in …

Broken Code to Broken Dreams to Broken Worlds

(Originally posted to my Tumblr blog.) On the way to a housewarming party, I wrote an email to a piece of my past. A snippet: [M]y dreams have subsided but my memories are resurfacing. I’m spending some time for the first time in years reading the archives of my own blog. And, as part of …

I was mugged. Will you please help me out?

Dear readers, About an hour ago, while walking home from Noisebridge, I was mugged. Two men who seemed to be in their mid-twenties, one dark-skinned gentleman and one lighter-skinned, wearing black hoodies and jeans attacked me at the corner of Fillmore and Waller streets. The dark-skinned man looped his arm around my throat roughly and …

Settling in San Francisco

I wrote this on July 27, 2009, a little over a year ago: Not long ago I moved to San Francisco, California in order to make a fresh start for myself in a number of different ways. Creating a new home turns out to be a ton of work, especially since I had almost nothing …

What if the Ten Commandments were affirmative instead of negative?

Of the Ten Commandments, only 3 are phrased in the affirmative. The other 7 are phrased as negatives. Why? Doesn’t that seem kind of oppressive to anyone else? Here’s the Ten Commandments as listed on Wikipedia: I am the Lord your God You shall not make for yourself an idol You shall not make wrongful …

Cross-post: Announcing Sex Education Everywhere: Because We Learn More Than What They Teach

I’m very excited to announce a new initiative that I’ve begun working on in collaboration with Emma, co-unorganizer of KinkForAll Providence and my co-host on Kink On Tap. The new project, called SexEdEverywhere, is going to be our biggest and most challenging project to date. It also has enormous potential. (This announcement was originally made …

What Kind of World

I quit my job today. I’d been working there for less than 4 months, and it’s one of (if not the) best normative corporate gigs I’ve ever had. And yet I handed in my 2 weeks’ notice today, without anything “lined up” and no concrete idea about how I’m going to make a living. And …