Now it’s all the little things

Immediately after arriving in New York City, I turned myself into a tornado of work and worry in order to make sure KinkForAll was the success I desperately needed it to be. To my indescribable relief and happiness, KFANYC wasn’t just a success, it smashed through even my wildest expectations, topping at 45 presentations with …

Too many tears: My first morning back in NYC

A few minutes ago I awoke in a friend’s bed in their apartment in Harlem. I wanted to do nothing but stay there and not get up. I feel like there is too much to take care of, way too much to handle. My flight from Sydney to New York City was less than good, …

Insomnia of the worst kind

Tonight’s my first of a little over a week’s worth of nights alone. When this ends, I’ll be on the other side of the planet. I’ve turned out the lights maybe four times already, trying to get ready for bed, but my body just won’t shut down despite its utter exhaustion. I really hate this …

Thoughts on happiness and relationships and mental health

I suppose it is not surprising that just after the turn of the new year on all of our calendars, everyone and everything is seemingly reflecting on measurements of their own happiness and satisfaction. I just took a little Happiness Formula test and the result I got is unsurprising: Slightly below average in life satisfaction …

Why Be Generous

Something from tonight that I said that I want to remember: The thing about being strong is that being strong means not getting what you want or what you need and yet being okay anyway. When I was young and, of course, even these days, I don’t always get what I want or need. I …

Hysterical over work and life

I should preface this with yet another warning that what follows is the incredibly hysterical ranting of an emotionally stressed person and should probably not be taken as anything other than an expression of the emotions currently running through my head. Oh my god! This can not be happening to me. I simply can not …

Helen Fisher discusses love, proving the naturalness of polyamory

I recently discovered TEDTalks, a fantastic web site that shares the lectures and presentations at the Technology Entertainment and Design conference in Monterey, California. I just watched Helen Fisher’s talk, which the TED web site describes like this: Helen Fisher is an anthropologist with Rutgers University, specializing in gender differences and the evolution of human …