Relationship Anarchy is not for fuckboys (or polyamorists)

This is really a great piece. Really great. Real relationship anarchy is political. There’s just no way around it. How could it be otherwise, when it has roots in political anarchism? Relationship anarchy is not about getting your dick wet and looking cool while you do it. It’s not about sounding hipper than all the […]

Ethics Refactoring: An experiment at the Recurse Center to address an ACTUAL crisis among programmers

I’ve been struggling to find meaningful value from my time at the Recurse Center, and I have a growing amount of harsh criticism about it. Last week, in exasperation and exhaustion after a month of taking other people’s suggestions for how to make the most out of my batch, I basically threw up my hands […]

The Internet as an Identity-Multiplying Technology

When I saw that a friend had shared this years-old post about Facecebook founder Mark Zuckerberg‘s infamous remark that “Having two identities for yourself is an example of a lack of integrity,” I thought I’d chime in: Actually, Zuckerberg’s is a common misunderstanding of telecommunications. If you’ve done even a tiny bit of academic study […]

Your Consent Is Not Being Violated By Accident

unquietpirate: When you start looking for examples of nonconsensual culture in technology, you find them absolutely everywhere. – Deb Chachra, Age of Non-Consent About a month ago, someone sent me this lovely rant and asked me to publish it anonymously. I’ve been sitting on it mostly because I got wrapped up in other things. But […]

So, you work for The Borg, do you? An anecdote of adiophora in Silicon Valley.

At a recent party in Silicon Valley, I met a dude who worked for Palantir and was baking a pie. He said he loved his job. And he loved baking pies. “Oh, you have it all wrong,” he told me in between glances at the oven. “We don’t make surveillance equipment. We just make the […]